becky Posted October 31, 2005 Report Share Posted October 31, 2005 HI all, sorry i haven't been posting much recently but i am going to court tomorrow against my ex employer for disability discrimination for sacking me whilst i was ill and not making any adjustments.I will admit that i am absolutely terrified, i have to get up and speak, i'm scared i'll pass out and then i'll never be able to tell everyone what they did to me. I'm not sure what's worse though all of the letters that i have from them and my doctors telling me that i'm stressed and not fit for work or the fact that all of the people that are there tomorrow have seen all of my medical records dating back to when i was born, there is some really private stuff in there about the counselling that i received a few years ago for depression and all of the tests that i have had to go through to finally get to a diagnosis - i have to say that at the weekend i just thought, i can't do this, i was so upset by all of the things that i had read and i did not want my private life dragged through the courts and made public knowledge, but then i thought about how i don't have anything to hide from them and there are so many people out there who are discriminated against and don't do anything about it because they are sick, so i decided that i'm going to be strong and stand up and say that's not right, i may be sick but i've still got a voice and i'm going to use it. please wish me luck, and keep me in your thoughts, and thanks for all the help over the past few months. sorry this was a bit longer than originally planned.i'll keep you all updated, should be all over by thursday.big hugs and lots of lovebecks x x x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scooby2 Posted October 31, 2005 Report Share Posted October 31, 2005 Hi Becky,I just wanted to say that I hope things go as well as possible for you on Thursday.You know that you are doing the right thing, even though at the moment it seems hard to face. Often with big things like this the build-up and anticipation are worse than the event itself, lets hope so.All you can do is be brave and honest and ensure that others see the bad judgments your ex-employer made to you.Wishing you lots of luck (and don't forget to sit down as much as poss - not a great place for a passout!) Best wishes,Scooby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dizzy Dame Posted October 31, 2005 Report Share Posted October 31, 2005 Good luck! Beat 'em up! - Lauren Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
corina Posted October 31, 2005 Report Share Posted October 31, 2005 Hi Becky,I'll keep everything corssed for you tomorrow and send good thoughts your way and hope it helps you win your case. Best of luck!!!!!Corina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
morgan617 Posted November 1, 2005 Report Share Posted November 1, 2005 Good luck, let us know how it goes! morgan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MightyMouse Posted November 1, 2005 Report Share Posted November 1, 2005 All the best Becky, I hope that it's not nearly as traumatic as you anticipate and that the outcome is what you are hoping for.Nina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sophia3 Posted November 1, 2005 Report Share Posted November 1, 2005 Best of Luck, Becky. Can't wait to hear an update. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gena Posted November 1, 2005 Report Share Posted November 1, 2005 Becky,I'm sending you thoughts of inner strength, courage and peace. I hope all goes well and that you find a way to say and do all the right things. Best wishes.Gena Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
steph37822 Posted November 1, 2005 Report Share Posted November 1, 2005 oops Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TERRI13452 Posted November 1, 2005 Report Share Posted November 1, 2005 Good luck, you are in my prayers. Terri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Evie Posted November 1, 2005 Report Share Posted November 1, 2005 Hi becky, My mum took her employer to court for stress related stuff and won. It took years and it was really tough on her but in the end i think she wanted to let them know they cant get away with treating people poorly .. even if she lost she still cost them time and energy to think about the matter. I think you are right on the ball about not going down without a fight (of course thats a personal choice each individual has to make) ...Wishing you all the best and sending you thoughts of strength. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
persephone Posted November 1, 2005 Report Share Posted November 1, 2005 GO FOR IT, YOU'RE RIGHT AND THEY'RE WRONG! (THIS IS WHAT I KEEP TELLING MYSELF ABOUT OXFORD, EXCEPT OF COURSE FOR MY FABULOUS TUTOR HERE)STAND UP AND MAKE A DIFFERENCE- I KNOW YOU CAN DO IT. I KNOW YOU CAN SUCCEED!BIG, BIG HUGS. (IN CAPITALS COS I'M SHOUTING!)DON'T GET MAD- GET EVEN! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
becky Posted November 1, 2005 Author Report Share Posted November 1, 2005 hi all, thanks for the really encouraging words, today was quite hellish. i had to go first and i wasn't prepared for that, but i just kept calm read my statement and explained to the judges everything that happened during my employment, i had to ask for a couple of unschelduled (sp?) breaks as i kind of started to slur - a sure sign i'm going down hill and my sentences weren't making sense! anyway i could see my dad and my fiancee waving to me to stop so i asked for a break and the court were really nice. The opposing lawyer was really tough and kept on saying that i was lying and trying to make me sound less credible but i kept to my guns didn't get upset and more importantly didn't get angry at the short bald man!!Anyway, apparently tomorrow will be easier as it's their turn and i don't have to speak but i think thats just as bad. right i now have a banging headache as i have only just got home and i left this morning at seven, so i'm going to bed. Bring on round two!!lots of love and hugs (especially to pers, thanks mate)becks x x x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
persephone Posted November 1, 2005 Report Share Posted November 1, 2005 you are awesome, good will win through- how cna it not with your own dang cardiologist back you? stupid people, they are, those former employers of yours. Don't let them get one up! SHOW EM WHAT YOU'RE MADE OF LOVE! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ianankatie Posted November 1, 2005 Report Share Posted November 1, 2005 Well done Becky you are doing brill! I'll be thinking of you tomorrow!Good luck xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miriam Poorman-Knox Posted November 1, 2005 Report Share Posted November 1, 2005 Be brave buckaroo................Think of the balding lawyer as a little little man in a speedo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Miriam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Julia59 Posted November 2, 2005 Report Share Posted November 2, 2005 Becky, I'm so proud of you-----you go get them----you can do it!Yes, you are right about not wanting your records being public knowledge, but don't let them get you down, you have been through a lot---and you will over come this too. Good luck in Round two! I'll be praying for you. Tell the little bald guy were rooting for you............... Julie :0) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OCsunshine Posted November 2, 2005 Report Share Posted November 2, 2005 Good job on speaking up and also asking for breaks when you needed them- that might even help your case (not hiding the illness).We are behind you 100%, let us know how it goes. Good for you for putting up a fight, we're proud of you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
purplefocus Posted November 3, 2005 Report Share Posted November 3, 2005 Becky, I am so proud of what you are doing. I know how devastating this disease is and how employers can be. Sounds like you did an awesome job yesterday. My thougths and prayers will be with you today. purplefocus Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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