purplefocus Posted February 28, 2005 Report Share Posted February 28, 2005 Guys, you know ya are the strength that helps me get thru the days sometimes. Well this is off topic but I need peace, prayers, energy.........all sent my way. I hope my symptoms stay intact over this next week. I found my exmothernlaw of 17 years dead in her house yesterday...........along with that, my neice that is 7, probably on has a few weeks to live if she survives that long (leukemia).........the family is so at odds with each other that no one will do anything and I use to be the strength in that family and I see them trying to pull me back into it. I have to be there because of my two sons........please send me peace. Thank you guy purplefocus Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
steph37822 Posted February 28, 2005 Report Share Posted February 28, 2005 oops Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomtoGiuliana Posted February 28, 2005 Report Share Posted February 28, 2005 So so sorry for your family's losses. What a painful time for all of you. You will be in my thoughts. I wish you and all your family peace. Take care, Katherine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Susan Lake Posted February 28, 2005 Report Share Posted February 28, 2005 My thoughts are prayers are with you and your family. May you find that strength somewhere to help you cope during this difficult time.My sisters husbands brother has leukemia and is living with them now on hospice during his last days. May peace and love be with you at this time.Susan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JLB Posted February 28, 2005 Report Share Posted February 28, 2005 I'm so sorry. Such sadness. I can't imagine the shock it must have been to your system, to find your ex-MIL that way. And my thoughts and prayers will be with your niece and everyone who loves her.Stay strong... Let us know how you're doing.(((((((())))))))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dawg Tired Posted February 28, 2005 Report Share Posted February 28, 2005 You are in my thoughts and prayers. I am so sorry about the difficult time you are facing. Your sons are fortunate to have such a loving and caring mother. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ernie Posted February 28, 2005 Report Share Posted February 28, 2005 What a tragedy,I will be praying for you.Ernie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MightyMouse Posted February 28, 2005 Report Share Posted February 28, 2005 I will keep good thoughts going for you. Nina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sophia3 Posted February 28, 2005 Report Share Posted February 28, 2005 My goodness, such a tragic shock and ongoing sadness for you.Thoughts and prayers sent your way.Sophia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
geneva Posted February 28, 2005 Report Share Posted February 28, 2005 I wish you peace and tranquility during this sad and stressful time. Remember the best thing you can do for your sons is to take care of their mother. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
morgan617 Posted February 28, 2005 Report Share Posted February 28, 2005 My thoughts and prayers are with you. morgan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RunnerGirl Posted February 28, 2005 Report Share Posted February 28, 2005 I'm sorry you're having to endure so much at one time. May the love of your sons and the friends you have here and elsewhere help sustain you during this trying time. Do your best to take care of yourself, even as others make demands of you. And remember this IS light at the end of this tunnel... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Julia59 Posted February 28, 2005 Report Share Posted February 28, 2005 Wishing you peaceful thoughts and blessings for your family to come together for your niece during this difficult time. I'm praying for you to keep your strength, and praying for your niece.Julie :0) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blackwolf Posted February 28, 2005 Report Share Posted February 28, 2005 I'm so sorry for you and your family. All my prayers for you.Blackwolf Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Merrill Posted March 1, 2005 Report Share Posted March 1, 2005 My heart goes out to you and your family, Purplefocus. Someone posted a beautiful MLK quote on this site months ago, and it's stayed with me:"Only when it is dark enough can you see the stars."Soon you will see light again ... hang in there.Merrill Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StaceyYount Posted March 1, 2005 Report Share Posted March 1, 2005 I am sending you strength and my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.Stacey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
calypso Posted March 1, 2005 Report Share Posted March 1, 2005 I am so sorry you are in the midst of two major hardships. Peace and strength are being sent your way.Amy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
purplefocus Posted March 1, 2005 Author Report Share Posted March 1, 2005 Thank you all for all the encouraging words you had to say and all the strenght you sent my way. Apparently I receieved it..........I have went nonstop for almost 12 hours and I haven't had any symptoms. I was able to assist my ex sisinlaw with all the preparations for her mom, call as many people as I could possibly remember, shopped with my boys for appropriate clothes, and took my boys to see there dad and I was actually able to comfort him in a way............My neice is in disney world this week thru the wish foundation..........it is her dad's mom that passed...........they are suppose to becoming home thursday for the funeral...........it just seems to much for one family to go thru but I know there is a plan for everything. Just thanks guys for letting me vent here and you know what I have to mention this my husband has been so understanding and has even offered his assistant to my exinlaws for anything he could do for them. I am greatful for this site. Thank you purplefocus Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest tearose Posted March 1, 2005 Report Share Posted March 1, 2005 purplefocus and family...sending more peace and strength...May you be warmed and soothed by the memories and the love you share with each other.sincerely, tearose Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnA Posted March 1, 2005 Report Share Posted March 1, 2005 My thoughts and prayers are with you during these difficult times.Dawn A Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Mary from OH Posted March 3, 2005 Report Share Posted March 3, 2005 Purplefocus-My thoughts and prayers are with you and all of your "families"!! What a double whammie!!! I pray for peace for everyone. It seems like we've all just had our share of rotten luck lately. I pray it ends soon. May God strengthen you during this time and keep you out of a potshole!!Take care my sweet friend! I'm so sorry for you loss. And I pray your niece will go into remission, if possible!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seaboardbc Posted March 4, 2005 Report Share Posted March 4, 2005 You're in my thoughts. Hang in there you have all of us and that's a lot of support!Bren Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
purplefocus Posted March 5, 2005 Author Report Share Posted March 5, 2005 Thank you guys for all the support.........we were able to get thru the funeral and everyone stills seems to be intact...........my niece is pitiful..........they have started given her morphine now for all the pain she is having.........she no longer can walk. It is just so very sad but somehow we will find the strength to go to the next day. Thanks once again to all of you. purplefocus Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MightyMouse Posted March 5, 2005 Report Share Posted March 5, 2005 May you find comfort and peace to help you through all of this stress and emotion. Warm hug. Nina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Mary from OH Posted March 5, 2005 Report Share Posted March 5, 2005 {{{{{{{{{{Purple Focus}}}}}}}}}}}I'm glad you're hanging in, but so sorry that so many sad things are happening....I'm so sorry about your niece's declining health. May I ask how old she is? I pray that the morphine keeps her comfortable. Can someone stay with her and read or just do things with her she "enjoys"? Even if it it just watching a favorite movie or brushing her hair or doing her nails? She will enjoy that. Many of my friends have transplant children. We have seen a lot of death lately. Marissa may someday have to go down that road. We have been "getting prepared" for years. These children are so strong and teach us so much. They are amazing!! May your niece be strong and fight a valient fight. Her little body and of course God will know when too much is too much. Just enjoy your precious time with her. Hello God, I called tonight To talk a little while I need a friend who'll listen To my anxiety and trial. You see, I can't quite make it Through a day just on my own... I need your love to guide me, So I'll never feel alone. I want to ask you please to keep My family safe and sound. Come and fill their lives with confidence For whatever fate they're bound. Give me faith, dear God, to face Each hour throughout the day, And not to worry over things I can't change in any way. I thank you God for being home And listening to my call, For giving me such good advice When I stumble and fall. Your number, God, is the only one That answers every time. I never get a busy signal, Never had to pay a dime. So thank you, God, for listening To my troubles and my sorrow. Good night, God, I love You too, And I'll call again tomorrow! I also wanted to share:A lecturer, when explaining stress management to an audience, raised aglass of water and asked, "how heavy is this glass of water?" Answers calledout ranged from 20g to 500g. The lecturer replied, "The absolute weightdoesn't matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it." "If I hold itfor a minute, that's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have anache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you'll have to call anambulance. "In each case, it's the same weight, but the longer I hold it,the heavier it becomes." He continued, "And that's the way it is withstress management. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later,as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won't be able to carry on." "Aswith the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest beforeholding it again. When we're refreshed, we can carry on with the burden.""So, before you return home tonight, put the burden down, leave itoutside your door. Don't carry it into the home. You can pick it uptomorrow. Whatever burdens you're carrying now, let them down for a momentif you can." "Relax; pick them up later after you've rested. Life isshort. Enjoy it!" And then he shared some ways of dealing with the burdensof life: Accept that some days you're the pigeon, and some days you're the statue. Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them. Always read stuff that will make you look good if you die in the middle of it. Drive carefully. It's not only cars that can be recalled by their maker. Eat a live toad in the morning and nothing worse will happen to you forthe rest of the day. If you can't be kind, at least have the decency to be vague. If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probablyworth it. It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to serve as a warningto others. Never buy a car you can't push. Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, because then you won'thave a leg to stand on. Nobody cares if you can't dance well. Just get up and dance. Since it's the early worm that gets eaten by the bird, sleep late. The second mouse gets the cheese. When everything's coming your way, you're in the wrong lane. Birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live. You may be only one person in the world, but you may also be the world toone person.Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once.Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened.We could learn a lot from crayons. Some are sharp, some are pretty and someare dull. Some have weird names, and all are different colors but they allhave to live in the same box.A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.Happiness comes through doors you didn't even know you left open.Have an awesome day and know that someone has thought about youtoday..........I did.Please take care of yourself!! And give your niece a hug from me! Tell her that I love her and that God loves her and that everything WILL be ok. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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