Ctat333 Posted October 31, 2013 Report Share Posted October 31, 2013 Does anyone else ever feel guilty because you're sick? It's Halloween, and my husband has taken both of our boys trick-or-treating. Today was a bad day for me, and I just don't have the energy to go. I feel like such a bad mom for not going with them, and I am so angry that have to miss out on stuff like this because of how bad I feel. I feel like it's not fair to my boys. There is so much that I miss out on with them, because there are things I just can't do. My heart aches for my babies, and for myself. Sorry for the little rant, but I'm just so frustrated and angry right now! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kim5204 Posted November 1, 2013 Report Share Posted November 1, 2013 I feel same way I am sitting in the hospital why my kids are out trick or treating. I have accepted my illness but dont like the fact my kids have to come along for the ride. Just take it one day at a time and I always hope tomorow will be better.Kim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KareBear Posted November 1, 2013 Report Share Posted November 1, 2013 I dont know how old your babies are but I believe everyone here feels guilt of some sort about being sick when it comes to family. Not being able to help out or do your share around the house is hard. I'm sure your kids will get old enough to understand eventually and for now they may just see it as normal that you cant go places if they dont know the difference. From what I have learned its much harder on moms than it is on kids. Kids adapt but moms want to do everything and be everywhere with their children. So more than likely they are doing just fine and are happy children, its the self torture your mind puts you thru that makes things seem worse. Look forward to the good days and spend more time with them then and a handful of good days and good memories will always make up for the not so good days. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeforeTheMorning Posted November 1, 2013 Report Share Posted November 1, 2013 Big Hugs to you, I'm so sorry you're feeling this way right now, it is very hard to have a chronic illness.I often feel this way when friends or family want me to go out with them, and I just can't do it.You just have to keep hoping that good days will come.Best WishesLyla Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ctat333 Posted November 1, 2013 Author Report Share Posted November 1, 2013 Thank you all so much for the encouragement. I still wish that I could do it all, but I am learning to take one day at a time. We have made some great memories on the good days, so I am thankful for those. Thank you all again for helping to comfort my heart when I was sad last night Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gertie Posted November 3, 2013 Report Share Posted November 3, 2013 Everyday for approx 30 years. Don't give up things will be better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Freaked Posted November 3, 2013 Report Share Posted November 3, 2013 Yes. I feel like I'm a terrible girlfriend, daughter and friend. I can only imagine how guilty I'd feel if I was a mom. But being sick isn't your fault. It's not fair, and it's not your fault. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angelloz Posted November 3, 2013 Report Share Posted November 3, 2013 I am doing this same thing today, we need to find a way to stop this!!! I wouldn't blame anyone else for this..and I don't feel like anyone blames me, it's just that I know all my problems place a damper on the events and joys of my family and for this I feel so terrible and yes guilty! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
E Soskis Posted November 3, 2013 Report Share Posted November 3, 2013 I think I'm over the guilt but, not the disappointment - I will be forever disappointed that I cannot participate in normal activities and have to sit on the sidelines - There is joy to be found on the sidelines - just wish I didn't have to miss so much though...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KareBear Posted November 4, 2013 Report Share Posted November 4, 2013 This is a good example, my family is always pushing for me to join in on family events away from the house no matter how bad I feel. So tonight was a birthday dinner for my dad, the entire family was going and they didn't really give me a choice. They would say "you better get ready, we are leaving at 5:00" and when I said I couldn't make it I got the guilt trip....." It's for your dad, you need to try, he does a lot for us". You know that whole song and dance. So I pushed thru it to get dressed and go. It was horrible, I fought off passing out the entire 2hrs at the restaurant. I ended up just laying my head on the table hoping it would end and couldn't eat and barely visited with anyone. Now I am home, exhausted and more miserable. It will make tomorrow more difficult too. It wasn't worth it but I was pressured. It upsets and frustrates me when people do this to me instead of understanding. Now I have to deal with the aftermath myself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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