marni4u

I guess what you're saying makes some sense--but, I don't feel I was one who expected 24/7 attention.

Thank you all so much for your kind words and encouragement. It has been a rough week, to say the least but, after reading all the replies, it has made me realize I'm not the only one who is going thru this, or has experienced this situation. And, it appears, some of your domestic situations are/have been worse than mine. DSM--sorry you got served with papers--That's even a worse shock. And, Sandyshell--you spoke of your x-husband keeping you from doing things while you were married--how horrible. Did he not let you have contact with friends or family? My goodness, what was his reasoning? I can't believe his mother told you there was nothing wrong with you repeatedly! What a shrew! I do have to say that my in-laws, although they didn't support me being sick and always complained to my husband, my mother-in-law would cook for us on numerous ocassions, especially when I wasn't feeling well--of course maybe she was more concerned about her sons stomach than mine! And they were more than generous in other ways also. They just think I'm a fake and a nut case. My parents live about an hour away so I can't say I can rely too much on them for things I need or might have to get done. I'm concerned about financially being able to carry this burden alone. I can't afford the rent on this house myself and, since we've only been married 3 years, there probably isn't anything I'm entitled to--like support of any kind. Guess I'll have to cross that bridge when I come to it---which I have the feeling will be very soon. Our rental lease is up the end of October and after the conversation I had last night with husband, it appears he expects me to plan to find a place I can afford by that time period. Again, thank you all for your support--it's good to know other people have gone thru this and I can come to this forum and get support from people who understand. I've had a bad migraine the last few days so this was my first opportunity to reply. Any more words of wisdom will be appreciated.

Don't know where to start. Got the shock of my life a few days ago. My husband came home from work and that evening informed me HE just can't take it anymore and feels it's best we separate. He's tired of all the dr. visits, hospitalizations, ER visits AND my lack of participation in family events or any socializing. I tried to explain to him that if I felt better I could be more involved--he thinks I have "selective participation"--like if it's my friends or family or, something I am interested in then I'm ready to go. Can't understand how he could think that!! Soooo, for now he is staying at his parents. I have a feeling his parents initiated this mess--I know they were never supportive of my illness and always complained to him. I just don't know what I'm going to do--I feel so crushed. Has anyone here ever had to go through something like this over this illness? I just never expected it. Isn't marriage supposed to be "in sickness and in health"?

Would it be possible for you to fly instead of drive? Maybe, if it is a short flight, that would work better for you. Do you know how long of a flight it might be?

I can sympathize with you. I have very little support from my family (including the hubby) and no support whatsoever from the in-laws--they are the worse with the comments. If they could walk in my shoes for one day, maybe they would understand. BTW, I did have my first appt. with the "shrink" on monday--One of his questions was "how do I feel about being there"? My comment was "how would you feel if you were in my shoes and someone was questioning the possibility of YOU having munchausens"?

It's so wonderful to have a place to get support and advice and, to hear other peoples stories and experiences whether situations are similar or different. At times when one thinks their problems are horrible, in some ways, when you read other peoples posts you realize your problems seems so small compared to others.

OMG Sandyshell---How horrible--lucky for you your mom was present!! Were you in the hospital for a pots related episode at the time this happened or, was it an unrelated issue? I'm learning slowly that some medical professionals are useless.

You all have given me a lot to think about and, soooooooo much support and encouragement. I've had the mother of all migraines this past weekend--it's getting a little better but it's still not done with me. I think it came on from all the stress this past week. My fam and husband are insisting/pressuring me to see the "shrink" the ignorant Dr. suggested. I was leaning along the lines of finding an independent one but, not knowing whether I would need a referral, I have relented and gone ahead and made an appt. with the one the ignorant Dr. suggested. My head hurt too much to argue anymore. In the meantime, I plan on searching for a new Dr. I'm sure I'll get an earfull from family but, they just don't understand. Sometimes I feel they just think I'm lazy.

Thank you again so much. I will go thru the list you posted. It's so nice to know I'm not alone and, that the members of this forum take the time to help other members decipher things even tho so many of you are so very very ill with a host of problems. To take the time out of your day to do this is so heartwarming to me.

Thank you all for your words of encouragement and support. It certainly helps when you get little from family and friends (and Dr.'s). I just feel so down right now. And, Broken Shell, you had a good idea. I was thinking along those lines also. Of course, "the family" thinks it's all in my head anyway so they think I should see a "shrink" for that reason. Right now I'm still so upset and hurt, that it makes it hard to think straight. I will have to do that search that someone mentioned--I think it was Pat--and see how those other members handled the Munchausen Syndrome accusation. Anyway, it's nice to know that there are kinder and gentler people out there.

I have recently moved and was being seen by a Dr. who had been treating me for POTS symptoms for about 6months after coming to that conclusion from a tt test. This week I went to my new Dr. with all my medical info regarding tests, procedures, hospital stays, ER visits, etc. etc. After speaking with me and reviewing the material, to make a long story short, he basically informs me that he feels my only problem is vasovagal syncope which he says is a common condition occurring in half the people at least once in their life and probably about 3% of people develop it repeatedly AND, it's not a serious condition. Then has the absolute nerve to tell me that before he treats me for anything he wants me to have a psychological work-up and asks me if I ever heard of Munchausen Syndrome!!! He tells me it appears I keep subjecting myself to repeated invasive testing for numerous things he feels were questionable--This comment came after I asked him why he asked me about Munchausen Syndrome! I was so upset after I left his office I basically spent 2 days curled up in bed in the fetal position crying my eyes out. And now, my family, who wasn't very supportive with my conditions in the past is really giving me the "look" like I have a third eye or something. Has anyone here ever had Munchausen Syndrome addressed to them by their Dr. or any medical person? I'd really like to know and, if so, how did they handle this medical professional (I use that term loosely). I am feeling so distraught, so angry and, on top of that just plain mortified!!