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Jaime
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Hey everyone! I have lurking around, but I haven't posted in a while. I am having a very bad day today physically and emotionally. My right shoulder dislocated about 3 weeks ago and I am still in a sling which means that I can't write (of course this would happen the first week back at school). I just had to sign a declaration of intent to graduate today with my university so if I don't graduate in December they can actually sue me. Well, my ortho doc called and told me that they want to do surgery on my shoulder...nothing reconstructive because that won't solve the eds, but to fix any tears and to get my shoulder back in place because they haven't been able to reduce it. I can't take any narcotics because I just detoxed at my migraine specialists and when I got out of the hospital I had to sign a contract that I would not take any narcotics otherwise they won't see me anymore and they are the only ones who have helped me with my migraines. Then to top it all off my mom tells me that if I have surgery then I will have to hire someone (remember I am a poor college student) to take care of me. Then one of my professor tells me that I cannot miss anymore classes even though I have only missed one class. Then all of my internship applications are due at the end of the week and that is a huge mess. I am so stressed out and I needed to vent. Also, I have been having tons of tachycardia for no reason that I can figure out. I am sorry that this is all bad news, but I needed to vent to someone who understands what I am dealing with health wise. Anyways, I hope everyone is doing better than me!

Jaime

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Hi Jamie,

You certainly have an overwhelming load right now. How about taking all the things you have to deal with and lining them up in order of importance and then seeing what must be dealt with first and what might be able to wait. Talk to whomever you need to, the migrain people, the doctor, the school. Then form a plan and take it one step at a time.

It will all work eventually. Your big crunch is temporary. Just keep telling yourself that it will all pass and you will come out the other end just fine.

You can do it.

Michigan Jan

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Hi Jaime, I understand and have sympathy for your circumstaces. I have had 3 surgeries in the past year on top of being sick. (will the migraine place make an exception if you talk to them, since you are injured and need surgery?...I can't imagine having an injury or a surgery like that without pain management) You have alot on your plate. I have been faced with other stressful circumstances since being sick...sometimes you wonder how fair it can be to have to go through these things and be sick on top of it. It would be nice for them all to be sympathetic to your circumstances. Anyways, I understand how you must feel. You are in my thoughts and prayers!

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Just wanted to offer my encouragement to you! Sounds like you are under a lot of stress. The added stress may be part of what is increasing your tachycardia as well.

Maybe writing a list of things you need to do and prioritizing them could help you. I know things can feel very overwhelming at times. Just focus on one thing at a time so you can try to limit that overwhelming feeling.

I hope you will be feeling much much better soon!

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hi jaime -

first of all, hi! i don't think we've met before...

second of all, vent away...since you've been lurking you've probably seen me doing my fair share lately...that's one of the great things about this place. people "get it" in way that others often don't/can't.

you definitely do have tons on your plate & nothing is going to be fixed overnight (although that sure would be nice, eh?!)

re: your school situation, you may have already done this at some point, but i would highly recommend getting in touch with the disability services folks at your school. while it's ideal to have done so before a situation arises, it can be done at any point, and all schools have them in some form. while i am certain you want to graduate on schedule they may be able to help you out re: getting out of the contract you signed if it is necessary. they can also help you with the attendance issue with your prof. nina (mightymouse) just posted recently about getting accomodations for such and i have the same thing in writing to give to my profs (as do some others). you're obviously still required to do the work but they cannot penalize you solely for missing class; there are exceptions/stipulations, i.e. classes with labs that you cannot do if you're not there, etc., but there may be more support hiding behind the scenes for you at school than you realize.

as important as school is on one hand, your health has to come first or school won't matter one bit. same goes for internship, etc. i KNOW this is easier said than done (if you want to read my latest saga re: just this thing, it's the thread "major reality check").

i hope things work out the best way that they possibly can. others' suggestion of a list is good too; i live by them for all things good & bad.

hang in there,

B) melissa

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Thanks everyone for your support and advice. I had even more drama after I wrote my original entry, but things are looking better. My internship application is due on Monday so after that there will be a huge burden off my shoulders. Then I have to wait until November 14 to find out where I got accepted. My ortho doc called and she wants me to come in and talk about surgery on my subluxed shoulder which I really don't want to have surgery, but I always feel better when I know all the options and everything about a possible surgery. Well, again thanks for cheering me up and supporting me through my emotional breakdown! Also, I did go and talk with disability services and they are helping me with getting a notetaker and someone to give me my tests orally since I can't write due to my shoulder...that was a good suggestion Sunfish!

Jaime

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