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I have been looking for advice on telling her about my illness. I hope someone can help?

Thank You Morgan617 I did call back the nurse a few days after our date. We both said we had a nice time. I asked her if she would like to go out again sometime and she said yes. It looks like we will go out again. I'm looking for some advice about when to tell her about my illness. The second date would be too soon I think?? How much do I tell her? She is a nurse. Also over Christmas this whole situation has turned on my anxiety switch. I've had trouble sleeping and when I'm alone I'm experiencing more anxiety than usual. I take toprol xl when needed. I'm thinking of going to the Doctor and going back on klonopin. I use to take it every day but might just take it as needed.

Sorry you had to deal with such a mean coworker Angela. That can really push you over the edge when you're already sick. Most of the guys I work with were there when my health was at it's worst so they kind of understand. That's one reason I would hate to change jobs. Hang in there Angela. bluesman

Well I survived my date. I found out we are both about the same age. She has three kids. A teenage son and two younger ones I would say close to 5 years old. I exercised a little and took a beta blocker and believe it or not I didn't feel that nervous. We had good conversation and I didn't let a little bit of silence bother me. She did ask if I had kids and I said no and told her I had never been married. I don't know what she thought about that. What would most women think if they met a man in his late 30's that has never been married? I felt pretty good and didn't say anything about my health problems. I think I would consider going out again with her. I don't know how it would work out between the two of us. Her with 3 kids and me with dysautonomia. If I did go out with her I don't know at what point I would have to tell her about me?? Right now I'm trying to enjoy the fact that I actually went out on a date and had a good time. Thank you to everyone who offered advice. I'm sure I'll continue to need it. I feel like nobody understands what we go through just trying to live. Feel free to ask questions and offer advice.

Thanks for the advice. I'm nervous, anxious whatever you want to call it about this date. I have no expectations other than I need to do this. Only one date with a female friend since high school. That's a scary thought. I'm sure not many woman would be impressed by that. Not that I would tell them.

I'm new to this site here's some of my story. I'm in my mid 30's and I was diagnosed with mitral valve prolapse about 10 years ago. All I was told to do was drink plenty of water and increase my salt intake. Two years ago I had surgery for a deviated septum. While recovering from that I lost some blood, was very inactive and my weight went from about 140 to 120lbs. I'm 5'11" tall. I've always struggled with anxiety and some depression since my teens but this was a all time low. Through the internet I self diagnosed myself with dysautonomia. A few months later I made it to Birmingham Alabama and was diagnosed by a Doctor. Then I went to the Mayo clinic to confirm the diagnoses and to get help for my health problems. I had another sinus surgery at Mayo. They did a good job and took good care of me knowing my condition from the last surgery. I've had chronic back pain for most of my life but it is much better now thanks to some yoga. I've always had health problems since my teens but no Doctor ever had a answer. I've read a few personal stories of other people with this condition and that seems to be a common thread. My condition is not as bad as some others I've read about. I've never passed out . I do get dizzy when I get up from laying down or working on the ground. Some times my heart will race and then I take a beta blocker. Anxiety is a constant issue for me. Also I don't drink, don't smoke, no caffeine and no sugar or sugar substitutes. I could go on for ever with my health problems but I'll stop here and get to my post. I've spent most of my life alone and have not dated anyone since high school. After being diagnosed with this it was tough to accept. Anyway a nurse in a building I was doing some work in introduced me to another nurse. Gave her my number and she called me back a few days ago and we are going out this weekend. Actually I didn't even give her my number my coworker did but I let him know it was OK before he did. I'm looking for some dating advice. I have a lot of anxiety about this. I have no expectations other that going out to eat and talk with her. Here is what I know about her. She has two kids and went back to school to get her nursing degree. She has not been on a date for 5 years and said she has been living under a rock to quote her. She said she is not really a drinker either. With work and 2 kids I'm sure this is true. Her coworker called her a sweetheart. Not really sure of her age but she has a few grey hairs and so do I. I'm planning on paying for dinner and I'll most likely have to take a beta blocker to keep my heart from racing. Looking for advice here. Please help me.