Nin Posted September 28, 2023 Report Share Posted September 28, 2023 I'm really struggling mentally using a mobility which I need for longer distances or when I know I'm gonna need to stand for long e.g picking my children up from school. The problem is how people are treating me like I'm an alien! Most people can't even look at me. Earlier today I went to get bloods at the hospital, got off my scooter to walk to the toilet a few meters away and when I got back on my scooter the girl sat there laughed at me. She obviously thought can you walk to the toilet and then get back on your scooter like u even need that. I have never felt that I'm different to anyone else in my life until now, how everybody either stare's at me or awkwardly won't look at me. One of the mothers even laughed at me as she was walking towards me, again like seriously u need to be on that. I feel like I can relate to a lot of people now like even down to someone who is a different race, religion etc because you're made to feel like you're different, because people can be so judgemental. I just don't know how to toughen myself up with this Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomtoGiuliana Posted September 28, 2023 Report Share Posted September 28, 2023 Sorry that people are so mean. These people are not worth your energy. I would just try to ignore it and go on with your day. Most humans do care about others, give others the benefit of the doubt, so try to keep that in mind when one of these outliers shows themselves to be other than that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sea otter Posted September 28, 2023 Report Share Posted September 28, 2023 I am really sorry to hear that. Chronic illness is not easy at all, especially with all this additional burdens. I admire your courage for using your mobility scooter. The problem is that a lot of people are not aware of many (invisible) illnesses, this definitely needs to be changed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tiffany Kyriakos Posted September 28, 2023 Report Share Posted September 28, 2023 Unfortunately, I think this is a common problem with invisible illnesses. When my husband pushes me in my wheelchair at the store, no one makes any disrespectful comment or jeer or laugh. When I use one of the motorized wheelchairs that the store provides? Completely different story. besides just trying to ignore mean people, you could always get one of those witty T-shirts that talks about whichever illness you have. That way, people can read your T-shirt and understand that you do have a medical reason for using a scooter! They sell cute ones on Etsy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pistol Posted September 29, 2023 Report Share Posted September 29, 2023 @Nin I also use a wheel chair - and sometimes a seated walker - whenever long periods of standing are expected. If I am in a big store or mall I use the electric wheel chairs they provide. I no longer feel insecure about this, despite the occasional judgmental frown - simply because I know that the attention I get from sitting in a wheel chair is better than the attention I get when I wake up from passing out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarah Tee Posted September 29, 2023 Report Share Posted September 29, 2023 If someone laughs, ask them: “What’s the joke – do share!” (in a friendly tone). If someone makes a comment about your walking, say: “Yes, I can walk, but only about five metres. Then I pass out and you’d need to put me in the recovery position and call an ambulance.” If someone stares, say: “Hi, sorry, do we know each other? I’m terrible with faces!”. I’m sorry some people are jerks. I don’t know where they got their bad manners. I remember it was drilled into me when I was young never to stare at people or comment on disabilities or differences, probably a bit old fashioned but better than pestering or staring at people. I don’t use a mobility aid, but I’ve noticed that if I say I’m unwell when dealing with a bank or similar, some people will become patronising and proceed to treat me like a five-year-old. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MaineDoug Posted October 11, 2023 Report Share Posted October 11, 2023 I try to wear my disability proudly! Like a Purple Heart. We didn’t ask for this. We put in our time and continue to contribute to society. I am not shy about letting my feelings and my rights be known! And you can make quite an exit with a walker! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pistol Posted October 12, 2023 Report Share Posted October 12, 2023 19 hours ago, MaineDoug said: And you can make quite an exit with a walker! YES - it beats an exit on a stretcher! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MaineDoug Posted October 12, 2023 Report Share Posted October 12, 2023 Used appropriately, the noise from an aluminum rolling walker can attract attention from 100 yards and is deafening indoors!😂 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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