How to get people to understand and believe our illness? in Dysautonomia Discussion Posted August 24, 2019 · Report reply 23 hours ago, Scout said: I'm really struggling with how much my family and some friends just refuse to acknowledge that I'm sick. Even after hearing doctors saying I'm unwell or that I meet the criteria for diagnosis, many people in my life still always say things like "a positive attitude will fix it". I do believe in being as positive as possible, but it's frankly really hurting me how much they won't listen when I tell them I can't do something. They think saying "can't" is a weakness, but in reality for many of us with dysautonomia, it's about accepting reality and not making myself ourselves even more unwell. I tried to have a discussion with my mother about how I'm going to buy a wheelchair soon, and her response was the typical "you don't need one and stop having a victim mentality". I just don't know what to do anymore. It feels like I'm hitting my head against a brick wall, trying to get them to see. Sure — I realise it's hard for people to sometimes understand invisible illness, but it's depressing me deeply how much my suffering is doubted on a daily basis. I'm afraid I'm going to snap and get so angry at my family especially, and not want anything to do with them. Does anyone have any advice on how to move forward? Thanks so much. My moms still in denial. She thinks omega 3s will fix me with exercise. Lol. This is after i have explained the disease and how it works multiple times. I used to shower twice a day. Now its a struggle to shower daily. You arent alone in this!